Divorce if never easy, but if you have children, the issues are complicated in a way that differs from economic issues. Spousal and child support and division of property involves mostly you and your spouse, if you have children, however, they are affected at every stage of your divorce. And how you deal with your children from the very start of your separation through the children’s adulthood can have profound impact.
Oftentimes parents think they can protect their children from the struggles of their parents. Unhappy couples may stay together for the sake of the children. Child psychologies differ on whether, in fact, this does children well. Children are extremely sensitive and pick up upon the tension, anger, and hurt that parents may be experiencing even if parents may be “putting on a good face.” Thus, the idea of “sticking it out” until the kids are grown, while well intentioned, may not be the best choice—especially if the level of discord between the parents is high.
If you have decided to separate, involving your children in suitably in the separation and divorce process is exceedingly important. Child development experts agree that being upfront with children and telling them what is happening is important. Edward Kruk, PhD., advises that you should talk with your children about divorce.